I’m so excited to share this new blog project with you! ‘Let’s Talk!’ will be my weekly series about sharing my experience as a real estate professional to help you towards your home-buying/selling goals – but this is a bit more personal of a project for me. I answer the most common question I’m asked by friends and friends: “How the hell do you do it all?”. This is my work-life balance blog!
What they mean is that I’m blessed with three beautiful children who are my world. Everything I do in my life and in my career I do for them. I put in long days of showings and negotiations, but I still find time to be a mom, and – from what I’m told – a pretty good one. What you see on Instagram, on Facebook and in showings is only part of me. It’s the intangible third job: finding the balance between being a mom and a professional that seems to impress people the most. I’m not an expert at work-life balance; I work at it every day myself!
Work-Life Balance, and Always Being On the Go
I’ll start by saying this: I don’t think I’m that special. I love my job, I love my family, and I love my life. That’s the foundation for all of it right there. It’s not always easy being a mom. Or being a professional. And it’s rarely easy being both – but that’s what I love about it. I love the challenge of balancing all of these things I’m passionate about. That’s what keeps me going. Well, that and coffee.
Lately, I’ve been getting more people asking me how I do it. My answer is often “I’m always on the go”. That’s the reason I named this blog “Going Places”; I am literally always going places, and this blog talks about my thoughts in between the showings and the negotiations.
Take Control of Your Day!
At the heart of it all is the fact that I am fortunate enough to be my own boss and set my own hours. That lets me have a lot more say over my day-to-day schedule than my previous 9 to 5 life. That’s why I got into real estate; taking a great deal of experience in the construction and building industry, I craved more interactivity than sitting in an office behind a desk all day. I am an extrovert by nature, and I LOVE talking to people. Those who know me know this very well.
What I realized quickly is that a career in real estate was fulfilling for me because I was building meaningful lifelong friendships and working relationships every day. Using my strong negotiation skills, and literally helping make people’s dreams come true appealed to me. I took to it very quickly, and I never looked back.
Now, 7 years later, I’m proud to be part of a prestigious real estate firm in Engel & Völker. I’m making much of my own schedule, and never missing hockey/football/soccer games or family dinners.
Work-Life Balance & The Mama Bear
As my kids grow (the oldest is in university now), I love being able to spend time with them on their terms, and they know that I’m always going to put them first. As they get older and mature, the nature of the requests for my time change. I like to joke that I’m a part-time Uber driver with the amount of time I spend driving them around. The reality is I love spending time with them, even if it’s just a few minutes in the car. I’m a mama bear to my core, and they’ll always be my babies. The problem is that they grow up so fast! I wanted to make sure I wasn’t missing it as it happened.
Thanks to my career in real estate, I don’t miss the little moments that mean the most to me.
That’s not to say that I’ve perfected the work-life balance yet. In fact, my daughter will remember an instance not that long ago where she literally held my laptop in front of me while I was on my Peloton so I could type up an offer while getting in my daily workout. But for every one of those stories, there’s a dozen of me falling asleep in my work clothes with all the lights on after an 11-hour day.
Embrace Your Journey
I close on this thought for all of you moms (and dads) out there trying to find that elusive work-life balance. It’s not an end destination so much as how you approach the journey. I have rough days at home, I have rough days at work – sometimes both at the same time. They happen to everyone, but that doesn’t make them any less tough to handle when you’re having one. The best you can do is come in with a plan every week, divide it day-by-day based on your personal obligations, and make adjustments as you go if you fall behind.
A bad day is only truly a bad day if you aren’t able to move anything forward. Sometimes a day full of small victories is better than a day with a big win. But most importantly, sometimes what you think is a loss is just the universe ensuring you learn a valuable lesson you need before a big win.
Every Thursday, tune in right here to hear some of my many stories from my journey as a mom and as a professional. I’m Going Places! I hope you’ll join me for the journey – and tell me a bit about yours along the way!